Hello! If you are still out there & attempt to check my blog from time to time…I’m so happy to finally connect with you again! As you already know, I pretty much stopped blogging, without warning, about a year and a half ago. It wasn’t planned, it just happened. And as I’ve thought about it, two things were at the root of that departure…fear of failure & perfectionism. Right before I stopped blogging, I experienced a major failure and it completely paralyzed me. Every time I tried to move forward after that, I just couldn’t. And to make things worse, I felt like I couldn’t come back from it until I had some amazing (perfect) plan in place so that I would never fail again.
The problem with this is that…
FEAR OF FAILURE + PERFECTIONISM = NOTHING…
…well, nothing good or productive. It does equal a lot of bad things like: procrastination, worry, isolation, sleepless nights, over-eating, self doubt, hopelessness, and the list could go on forever.
Does this ring true for anyone else?
If so, then let’s move forward together and kick fear & perfectionism to the curb where they belong. I’m tired of them anyway.
My mom recently shared this quote with me & I love it…
“Do not expect to become perfect at once. If you do, You will be disappointed. Be better today,than you were yesterday,& be better tomorrow than you are today.” – Lorenzo Snow
That’s not too much to ask, right? Just be a little better every day…not monumentally better, just a little better. At least with that goal, we’ll be moving in the right direction…forward & upward. No more pulling ourselves down because we’re not where we think we should be or where we wish we could be.
IN ORDER TO DO THIS, I PUT A LITTLE PLAN IN PLACE.
I’d love for you to join me if you’d like! It’s nothing too big…remember, I’m trying to keep things small & simple. But here’s what I’ve been doing (and it’s been working!)…
I realized that God encourages & Satan discourages. So if I wanted help to be a little better every day, I had to give God a place in that day…preferably at the beginning of the day. Otherwise, I was leaving an opening for Satan to walk in & have his way with me….which never ended well.
So, every morning, I have a little talk with God & then I give him a chance to talk back…
If you want to talk to God, pray. If you want God to talk to you, read your scriptures. – Richard G. Scott
Throughout my life, I have done both of these things, but I’ve never been really good at being CONSISTENT on a DAILY BASIS….which left plenty of days for Satan to discourage me. So that’s why doing this every. single. day. is sooo important!
If you need motivation, just ask yourself this question when you wake up in the morning: Do I want God’s help today or Satan’s?
TWO MORE THINGS TO CONSIDER….
First, I don’t like setting a time restraint. God isn’t a check off the list…He’s our father. Would you build a good relationship with someone if you said…
“I’ll give you 10 minutes & then we’re done until tomorrow.”
Ya, I don’t think so.
However, most people understand that some days you have five minutes to talk & other days you have an hour or more. I think God cares more that you have a sincere desire to talk with him than how much time you can devote each day.
The surprising thing for me has been how much more time I want to spend with my Heavenly Father when I’m not setting a timer & checking it every few minutes. It really does change everything. And if you’re worried about time because you’re too busy, consider this…
There is another way to look at your problem of crowded time. You can see it as an opportunity to test your faith. The Lord loves you and watches over you. He is all-powerful, and He promised you this: “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matt. 6:33).
That is a true promise. When we put God’s purposes first, He will give us miracles. If we pray to know what He would have us do next, He will multiply the effects of what we do in such a way that time seems to be expanded. He may do it in different ways for each individual, but I know from long experience that He is faithful to His word.
– Henry B. Eyring
I don’t know about you, but I would love God’s help managing the effectiveness of my time! And I love how he says to look at spending daily time with God as an “opportunity to test your faith“.
MY FINAL THOUGHT FOR TODAY…
When you’re having your daily talk with God, keep a journal or a pad of paper next to you. Right before I pray, I write down anything that’s been on my mind that I want to talk with God about. It helps me to stop & consider my life before I pray & completely changes the quality of my prayers. So if you struggle with knowing what to say, or if you find your prayers are boringly repetitive, try this & see if it helps.
Also, when you’re reading your scriptures, write down anything that stands out to you…a scripture, a quote, a thought you had while reading, a question, etc.
I think of these notes that I’ve jotted down while reading as God’s personal letter to me that day. I’m always amazed by the love & encouragement I feel when I go back & read through my notes. He really is a loving Father in Heaven who knows each of us personally & is aware of the details of our lives.
One thought that has been on my mind lately is to share something from my personal study each day here on my blog. Even if no one reads it, it keeps me accountable & becomes a sort of online journal where I can reflect on God’s tender mercies in my life. So that’s what I plan to do. It may be as simple as a quote or scripture that stood out to me or a story from my life or some more in-depth thoughts that have been on my mind lately. I really don’t know. I don’t have any grand plans, just trying to keep it simple & uplifting here on my blog & in my life.
Thanks for joining me on the journey!